Soo…

Long time no update!!

So I’ve been committed to a man for nearly a month now. He’s in love with me, yet he doesn’t know what I do. I feel somewhat bad for lying to him about what I really do, but I’m really lying cos I’m falling for him. I don’t want him to bitch about guys staring at my ass/naked body the whole night, and how he doesn’t understand it’s just a JOB.& I’d be pressured/forced to leave it all behind. Which I guess I don’t mind(I’m kind of tired of wondering how much I’d make, and of men trying to bargain with me, and bla bla the list goes on about the cons of dancing) but the money does get pretty good and I’d miss all the girls, flirty bartenders, cute DJ, dressing up and the somewhat fun night life…. And I wouldn’t know where the heck I’d get a job that I actually enjoy.Worst thing that can happen for me right now is be dumped also.I don’t feel guilty though. Cos I’m not feeling anything when I’m with sleazy pervs, and it makes me love him that much more when I’m with him.
& Hey, whatever they don’t know won’t hurt them right? They shouldn’t even be hurting.

I had a wonderful night tonight, made a fair few dollars. Then went straight to see my man, he brought me something he cooked, while he drove me home I ate it, we parked somewhere, then we banged in his car. It was a great way to end the night

40 Things every woman should know

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man’s character, leave him alone.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. .

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Have faith in God/Goddess/Great Spirit/The Universe regarding your relationship, but don’t let faith make you stupid. God/Goddess/Great Spirit/The Universe does things decent and in order.

Don’t settle.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

There’s only one ‘reason’ a man dumps you; he doesn’t want you.

Always put yourself and your happiness first.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn’t call, he just isn’t that interested.

Know when to cut the cord, don’t be strung along

Don’t fall for the “I’m confused role”. Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don’t wait for him, move on).

If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Actions speak louder than words.

Never let a man define who you are.

If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

Just because he says he loves you, doesn’t mean that he won’t hurt you and it doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with him.

Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.

Love is a verb.

Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

If you don’t love self…you can’t love anyone else.

You cannot mend someone else’s broken heart

You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary..

NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.

When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.

Don’t fall for the “I’m not the loving type”…when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn’t do for you.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him he takes it for granted..

When it’s time to let go. Let go.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Never believe a man that tells you he want to be with you, while he’s with someone else, – if he wanted to be with you, he would make it happen more sooner than later.

Don’t be a man’s door mat , make him open the door for you, because a real man would do this on his own.

There is someone out there worthy to be in your life, let out the trash so he can come in.

- Stolen off an awesome forum ;D

Mama Don’t Preach…

So I’ve recently told my ma about what I do.
I’ve always thought about what kind of reaction she’d get when I tell her, I never really planned to tell her anytime soon. But I guess it felt just right..

So down we sat with my sister (she knew about it) during a quiet lunch out.
So then it goes a little like this:
“So what did you want to tell me about your job?”
“…I don’t sell drinks at a bar”
“…What do you do then?”
“I dance.”
“Dance….? Where you take your clothes off?”
“Yeah.”
*awkward silence*

She was upset, she looked like she was about to cry.
But she took it the end, she took it quite well.
Helped me out with a pearl necklace that would match for my next costume, as well as bought me a rug for doing floor work cause my bruises frightened her!

Who would have known.. A strict, traditional, reserved mother helping her daughter with her stripping needs. It’s a shock!

Miserable Night

Yesterday night was the first bad night I’ve had.
I made really bad money, and I already felt it in the beginning of the night.
Maybe it was my makeup. Maybe it was my costume. Maybe it was a non loving asian crowd. Maybe I wasn’t drunk enough… Or maybe it was cause I worked 3 nights in a row, I’m tired unmotivated and it really affected my hustling and dancing for the night. Who knows.

So after many failed opportunities of selling any dances, I spotted this drop dead GORGEOUS guy hanging by the bar… Seriously, he was like… Whoa. Blew my mind (I’m a sucker for punk guys). What I didn’t tell you though, I saw him earlier in the evening. Probably like, an hour into my shift or so. He was with a bunch of mates hanging by the tipping rail. We were exchanging looks (more like stares) while I was makin’ small talk with this elderly gentleman.
He had his eyebrow and tongue pierced, ughhhhhhhhhhh I can’t decide whether it was lust or love at first sight.

So I was like, ugh screw it all. I’ll just go have a chat with this hottie for the remaining work hours till I go home, since I’m on retainer anyway.
With a few exchanges of words, I’ve learnt he lived away from his parents around the city area, left school in year 9 and other sorts of stuff.
We were hanging by the bar, and by most of the looks that were going around the club, I could tell people were suspecting something was going on.

We were whispering in eachother’s ears, standing real close, staring into eachother’s eyes and all that jazz. & He tells me he wished he could buy a private show off me if he had the money, and promised me he’d buy me a shower show next week.
Which I was like awwww how SWEET! Right???!!

But then the DJ told me to try and sell shows while I can. Then I bumped into this dancer that actually warned me of him. Telling me that he tried to ask for her number and when he failed to get her interest, turned to me, and said the exact same thing to her that he said to me: I’ll come back next week and I’ll buy a shower show off you. Oh yes…. & He’s engaged!!
So I was like.. Alright whatever, let’s avoid this guy and get back to hustling.

But what oh what was I thinking anyway right? Actually thinking I’d get with this guy? Dating someone you met at a strip club? Fo’ reeeel?? 90% of the guys from clubs like these won’t turn out to be a serious relationship anyway. They’re in it for sex and status
“Oh dude, I’m dating/fucking a stripper!!” *high fives mate*

Then when I was checking/getting cashed out after work, he attempts to follow me out of the club. Which I got security to hold him back in case he followed me.
I did give him my number though, I’m glad he hasn’t called. I certainly hope he doesn’t call.

It was a miserable night. Indeed it was. But there was a lesson learnt: Working in this proffession takes alot of strength and power. To not get thrown off your game by ANYTHING. When you fall, get back up and try again… For the moola I meant

That is all.

Types of customers

Whenever I see people enter the club, I always wonder to myself… What kind of customer are they? How long are they staying? What kind of girls are they into around here? How much are they willing to SPEND?
Here are just some of the few customers I’ve encountered so far:

The Spectator:
These customers are just one of the types that strippers hate. They linger around the club drinking, hanging, and just watching from afar but make no effort in tipping. Or they like to piss the dancers off further by sitting right at the tipping rail, and not tip. You start a conversation with them trying to sell a show, they refuse to buy. But ask to know when you’re up on podium again just to watch another free show.  They might come up to tip you, but just a mere 1 or 2 dollar. Or another variation of the the spectator is….

The Tightass:
They sit around the tipping rail enticing you and teasing you with a what? Oh what’s this you got here hun? Oh! 2 dollars! Cause you know, 2 dollars is hell of alot and by you waving that around in slow motion with lustful eyes make me want you SO DAMN BAD!! You try to get more out of them but they refuse to tip anymore out cos they feel they’ve given enough out. Or they bargain with you on how much they want a private show for.

Captain Save A Ho:
He is rich, successful, looks and may even smell rich. They’re usually dressed in business suits and are willing to spend ALOT on you. Whether it’s through shows or tipping dollars.
He’ll spend most of his time trying to entice you to quit your job, come away and be with him, telling you all sorts of awesome things like “you’ll never have to work again if you’re with me baby” or “I’ll take you all over the world with me”.
They’re absolute money makers.

The Fucker:
Literally. They waltz into the club looking for sex. You entice them in for a private show, they totally think they’re in for a great bang of a time. That’s until you tell them it’s strictly no touching/no sex involved. They look totally confused on what kind of a club this is till you tell’em nicely that this is a “strip club” not a “whore house/brothel”.

The Inconsiderate Prick:
These guys are in it to make girls feel like crap. They ramble about various shit, talk about how crap/degrading/stupid your job is, telling you that you’re too intelligent to be in these sort of places or whatever it is. A total time waster to me. I think it’s hilarious that they want to try to degrade dancers for what they are doing, but they are the ones willing to go into the club and be entertained by them. I resist pimp slapping these asses.

Mr. Be Mine:
These guys try to look for love in the wrong places. They are too blind to realise that you’re selling a fantasy, and would try to ask you out to dinner/movie etc. They’d also try get your number, and try to hang around till your shift ends, then attempt to stalk you home.

If there’s anything to add I’d definately update…

My drunk way home…

I sometimes question myself how i’m going back home after a late shift…
I was sitting in front of that chip vending machine where there was once a frenchman trying to score a free chip pack… Except it happened at night..
This is morning. A very cold morning. I’m not gonna bother brushing my teeth, just gonna rest myself. It’ll be the first thing I do when I get home. Fuck teeth brushing or whatnot.
I NEED REST!! I was meant to finish at 3.. So why was I still on my way home at 5 in the morning??

Fuck my life!

Proper job.

So define a job.
What’s a job? What do you get out of a job? Money right? (OBVIOUSLY)

There would always be someone using the phrase “So why not a proper job?” or “Why can’t you find a proper job?

So what makes stripping out of the ordinary than any other job? Sure it involves taking your clothes off…
But besides that, what so damned “unordinary” about it?
It’s not a 9-5 job, duh, yeah. But it’s a job. You get paid. You work your arse off. Just like any other job. If you sit around all day without lifting a finger while getting paid, well that’s absolutely wonderful for you!
I get my kicks elsewhere

I guess it’s cause most people think about self respect, and nudity shouldn’t be paraded to just anyone. But nudity should be a wonderful thing that one shouldn’t be ashamed of to show off. I mean, you get naked when you shower, change etc.
Oh, and if men like what they see on the street, whistle when they walk past you and whatnot… Why not pay to see more? ;P

More power to the women!